Wednesday, May 29, 2013

Black and White


“Everyone sees what you appear to be, few experience what you really are.” -Niccolò Machiavelli

I have been finding myself continuously deferring to black and white palette these days. So I have  put few pics in black and white. As a color combination, black and white is very optic and creates a high amount of contrast.I paired the black and white polka dot top from Vero moda with a pair of black jeans and a skirt in the second one. This outfits are something simple which I just threw on without thinking too much.





Don't mind the mess in the room. haha


My friend’s the main point is that no matter who you are or what your shape is, always remember to leave a little to the imagination. Show your curves without hugging every inch of you skin-tight. Bare your best parts, and last but least, flash your confidence!


-XOXO
:)

Monday, May 13, 2013

Monochrome

“While clothes may not make the women, they certainly have a strong effect on her self- confidence-  which I believe, does make the women”.
   Mary Kay Ash.

Monochrome doesn’t stop with black and white. Anything portrayed as a single color with different shades can be called monochromatic. The monochrome is also ageless, i.e., it’s always ‘in’. This trend can be worn by women of all ages, shapes and sizes.

It might sound too basic, but monochrome ensembles call for a lot of attention because of the polished sophistication they exude. Also, it’s next to impossible to go wrong with this trend. This is one trend you can carry to the next season as well because what’s classy stays classy round the year.

I did my monochrome look in Red. I utterly love this dress in quilt effect. I of course accessorized with a gold chain and a bangle. I am one for gold accessories.










-XOXO
:)

Thursday, May 9, 2013

Lost and Found


      Do you go out of your way to be nice for your partner or a friend? Do they do the same for you?

If you give, while your partner only takes, no matter how compromising or caring you are, you can’t hold on to that happiness forever. And that’s where self respect comes into the picture.

YES I did lose my self respect, and I know there are lots of people reading this that has gone through the same. It’s easy to talk about self respect, self esteem and all such words but when it comes to reality that’s where the other side of you comes into the picture.

The other side of me... I never had a boyfriend till high school, it’s not this that I was desperate but yes I wanted ones attention So whatever I could I did to get it , I partied , I had days when I did not remember a thing, everyone just loved my company. I didn't care if it was good or bad. ALL I wanted was attention and damn I did achieve it. I enjoyed it, in fact I loved it. But somewhere along that fun line, I started to lose my self respect.  I started dating a popular guy; I did everything possible to make him happy. I had spent a lot of my father’s money trying to please him and make him happy and mind you I did that for four years. In the end when I didn't have much to give him.  I was cheated… It broke me completely but a lesson well learnt in my life.

I had an option and I chose to be with him. I am not saying this that I regret of my decision to be with him; in fact I have had beautiful memories with him which I will always cherish. What I am trying to bring out is something that I learnt in these four years of my life. Today I have learnt to respect myself. I know this, now if I can give love and affection to someone then I can command the same from him too. Now I look at myself in a way that I never did before. Today I am more confident and strong. I have my own identity now. AND I LOVE MY LIFE. :)

Loving yourself is the basic of self-respect. If you bend over backwards for your partner, but deep down inside, you know they’d never do the same for you, it shows that you don’t respect yourself when it comes to your partner because you’re letting them use you.

Here's an unavoidable truth: We are going to screw up. Everyone, including successful people — makes boatloads of mistakes. The key to success is, as everyone knows, to learn from those mistakes and keep moving forward. We talk about losing self respect like it’s a permanent state. If that were so, there would be no comebacks.
Today I can proudly say this…
I would rather be alone with dignity than in a relationship that requires me to sacrifice my self respect”.


-xoxo

Friday, May 3, 2013

Self Confidence is the best accessory

From high school I have  spent years trying to be like everyone else, but then I realised  I'm not like everyone else then why be one, It is then when I accepted myself and started my own  statement.

I'm a plus size girl  and yes am proud of it..I'm not embarrassed of myself. I too went through a difficult time but the day I discovered myself and accepted myself that was the day I fell in love with myself. I don't care what everyone else thinks about me. Like all other girls even I like to dress up and go out, just cause I am fat it doesn't restrict me from wearing what I want.If I am comfortable  and can  carry myself in an outfit.. Then yes Bring it on.:)

I know what it's like to be ignored by the fashion industry. I know what it's like to compromise style and fit for what we can find in our size. I know how it feels to be told fashion isn't for you. BUT I WILL PROVE THEM WRONG. With time everything changes except the mentality of few people. I'm not trying to generalize but am saying what lot of people think about us.


Building self-acceptance and body acceptance is a process that requires effort and persistence.

FEW THINGS THAT REALLY HELPS

* SMILE: the best medicine
* FORGET OTHER PEOPLE STANDARDS
* MAKE THE MOST OF YOUR APPEARANCE
* MAKE PEACE WITH YOURSELF
* LOOK IN THE MIRROR

Next time if someone points out a problem that they have with your weight, tell them you are happy with the way you look and if they have a problem with it, its their issue not yours. Again if they come up with  stuff like we worry about your health, tell them to take care of themselves and that you are fine for they worry too much.

I am saying this because people will talk, but this things shouldn't stop us from living life the way we want. 
that's right they are just "things". At the end of the day, they go back to their own lives and we go back to ours. A healthy life begins with a healthy state of mind. Banish the diet culture. we worry far too much.

 One of my friend told me that I forgot to wear my pant's in this picture. BUT it didn't bother me, I knew  I could carry myself in this pretty white dress so I went forward with it and I loved it..:)
I have an obsession for polka dots... its the best  :P

xoxo
:)